What You'll Learn From Dad

Since I had Nicky, and really since I was pregnant with Nicky, I think a lot about what he'll learn from Chris and me. Sometimes I worry I'll impart too much focus on perfection or my high frustration level, but I smile when I consider that I'll teach him to have a fridge full cold cuts and a freezer stocked with bagels to greet guests (like my mother taught me). Or that every day should end with a good book, and sometimes start with one, too. It's an interesting and somewhat intimidating thing to consider: the influence you have on your children.

In just under 6 months we'll have two little boys. Will I think about this even more with Jack's arrival? Probably not, I'll be too busy. I'll be thinking in the moment, and most often thinking "coffee" or "diaper" or some other necessary thought for daily survival. So, I've decided to pen these thoughts down now while I have the time, while my spoiled little evenings can still consist of Project Runway and painting my toes and my nails and drinking decaf chai. These days are fleeting. I'm starting with what I know (to be clear, not what I hope) they'll learn from their daddy. Because these are the things he's taught me.

What You'll Learn From Dad (A List)

1. Buy your lady flowers just because, even after 12 years.  
2. If you love someone, tell them. Often.
3. There is nothing more important than family and friends.
4. If you think someone's beautiful, tell them. Often. Say "Good morning, beautiful" when you see them and you're almost sure to get your way.
5. Capture your memories on camera, on video. Never stop taking pictures of your kids.
6. Cooking someone a memorable meal and hosting them in your home is how you tell them you love them.
7. Hold the door.
8. Real men cook.
9. Say "bless you" when someone sneezes.
10. The effort is more important than the outcome.
11. Your father is always incredibly proud of you.
12. Never be too embarrassed to tell your wife how much you love her, no matter who's around.
13. Be an excellent provider. 
14. Never stop counting your blessings.
15. Life is a party.
16. It's not a party until there's music.
17. Real men do laundry.
18. It really doesn't matter what you wear. But it never hurts to look good, and it doesn't take very long.
19. Pull out the chair for ladies.
20. It's okay to cry.
21. Buy your wife jewelry when she doesn't expect it.
22. Make vacations a priority.
23. Your door is always open.
24. Serve women first.
25. Families include at least one canine. Canine gets to sleep on the bed.
26. Salt your meat as early as possible before cooking.
27. At least five excellent breakfast menus.
28. How to cook Brussels sprouts so everyone will love them.
29. Let people know you're there to help if they need you.
30. Learning to play the acoustic guitar will help you get dates. Both before and after you're married.
31. Soak white fish in milk before cooking. It eliminates any fishy taste.
32. Take your wife on dates and make sure you both get dressed up.
33. How to make the ultimate roast chicken and meatballs.
34. How to ride a bike, throw a frisbee, play catch, set up a tent, and start a campfire.
35. You are the coolest, most beautiful person in the world. Your father loves you more than the moon and the stars. More than anyone could ever imagine.